HEADLINE: FUGITIVE LOVERS MEGAN STAMMERS & JEREMY FORREST ARRESTED IN BORDEAUX—the history of Abelard & Heloise repeated 1000 years later…..
Nothing in the Anglo-American world is sillier or more sadly symptomatic of our congenital stupidity and hypocrisy as a society than the periodic hand-wringing that occurs when a teacher (male or female) is found in love or ((((worse, the very horror of it all!!!))) I shutter even to imagine such a thing….I faint away….then wake up) have sex with a student…..
Nothing is stupider, in any event, than our hypocrisy when it comes to sex as exemplified in Lewinsky & Clinton…. and similar idiotic episodes….
The relationship of a good student and his or her teacher can be very close and intimate, and this is NATURAL and not an evil thing…. yet from Blanche Dubois in Streetcar Named Desire people are condemned and lives are ruined by nosy (I’d say extremely JEALOUS) people who just can’t let a good thing like REAL LOVE flourish and grow—or really bad relationships work their course and teach people a lesson—NO, the State and the police have to get involved and PROTECT the people—Damn them all (the State and the Police), instead of damning people’s naturally free will and quest for happiness…. “IS happiness such a common thing that you have to squelch it whenever you see it?”
Whenever such a news story arises I literally get sick at my stomach. We live in a society PERMEATED by sexual advertising and the comercialisation of sex a la puissance treize….. So Why are we so shocked when the advertising combines with adolescent hormones and normal adult lust and longing for youth and configures into a great conflagration of love—the most beautiful thing in the world… Don’t we all learn from our pastors, preachers and rectors that “Sex is the filthiest most disgusting thing in the world, so you must ONLY share it with someone you love?”
The latest story to catch MY attention just ended in the tragedy of a 15 year old girl running away with her 30 year old Mathematics teacher (what a nerdy girl she must be, right?) and then getting caught in Bordeaux thanks to a European Arrest Warrant—this teaches us how much regionalization enhances Freedom—it used to be you only had to make it “to the county line” to escape from the law—now you have to … what, go from England to Russia or Morocco if you want to get away from English Prudes and Priggs? The nearest thing I’ve found on-line to my point of view was published by a lady who identifies her blog with the Chariot of Boadicea, Queen of the Iceni in East Anglia, whom I’ve identified previously on this blog as one of the earliest reasons why I went into archaeology in the first place….
To Sir, with love!
Does anybody else out there think that a veritable mountain is being constructed from the remains of a scattered molehill with regards to a particular elopement, details of which seem to be dominating all sectors of the British media?
While I accept that Ms Stammer is under age, being a few months short of her 16th birthday, and thus needing of protection, I cannot help questioning whether she really would be damaged by the relationship were it allowed to be continued without the interference of those people whom Chief Whips should avoid calling plebs.
For all his foolish naivitee, Mr Forrest does genuinely appear to be in love with the girl. There does not seem to be any question of grooming or other more sinister motives. This incident aside, he appears to be a pleasant, educated, intelligent and respectable chap. Megan’s father described him as a ‘good bloke’.
Megan herself seems to be a well balanced teenager from a good family. There are no overt signs of troubling behaviour. Apart from her age, she does not come across as a particularly vulnerable individual. She seemed entirely complicit and the relationship has clearly been going on for a long while. It would appear that their elopement was prompted by the sudden interest shown, by those who must not be called plebs. (Of course they screwed that up too.) Had the relationship been tolerated, it might well have fizzled out of its own accord, or quietly simmered away until such time as society was willing to be less judgmental. Other cultures around the world would not find the disparities in ages to be unusual.
Does anybody really feel that her life (his life is bound to be considered irrelevant) will be better if the pair are caught and he is sent to jail for abduction and statutory rape and whatever else Rupert Murdoch, sorry I mean the police decide to charge him with. It is also worth asking, is the expense of tracking them down really justified?
If I ruled the world, I would advise them to come back of their own accord, without charges being pressed. I would put them in different schools and allow them to have telephone contact but all physical contact must be in the presence of a chaperon, until she came of age.
I submit that just because an act happens to be in breach of the law, it does not mean it is wrong.